Hypocrisy in Action

You know what really pisses me off?  When I read other people’s blogs and see the trolls saying things like “of course it’s your fault you’re fat – you absolutely have to be stuffing your face incessantly all day long.”

Here’s an example:

[name deleted] wrote I’m fat, and its really not my fault…

On November 5 she wrote on her blog I ate till I was stuffed, and there’s no ifs, ands, or buts about it. I shouldn’t have eaten so much.

Sure it’s “really not your fault” sweetheart, sure it’s not…

And then somebody pointed out how hypocritical the troll was being:

[name deleted]….because she ate til she was stuffed once? Have you ever eaten a lot? Come on.

So the troll comes back with this:

Well sure I have [name deleted], but as [name deleted] got up to over 400 pounds something tells me that she ate til she was stuffed more than once.

Like only us fatties are the ones that have eaten to the point of being stuffed more than once.  I can tell you from my own experience that it’s actually the thin people (that I personally know) that eat the most.  There have been many discussions in my own house about the disparity between people of size and what they actually eat.  I am the biggest one in the house; my husband is skinny as a rail, three of my 4 girls are “normal” sized, and one of my girls is just like her father: a stick figure. 

My children have seen what I eat, and a lot of the time I eat less than my youngest child.  They eat 3 meals a day – as they should – and a lot of the time, I eat only one meal a day.  Oh sure, sometimes I actually eat like a “normal” person, but I have to admit that more often than not, I don’t eat anything until dinner time.  My children have seen this, and have realized that what the media and society tries to portray us fatties as being is a damned lie.  As my 7 y.o. says: “fat people are busy all the time, and skinny people are lazy.”

Now obviously that’s not true for everybody; my daughter is simply going by what she sees.  But it is true for the people that I have personally known in my life.  My best friend, as I have mentioned before on this blog, is bigger than I am, in more ways than one (if she were American, she’d make a good linebacker, let’s put it that way).  And she, like me, is the busiest person in the house.  She does most of the cleaning (now that her kids are older, they’re starting to help out more, but they still leave the bulk of the work up to her), she’s constantly running here, there, and everywhere, and she’s the only one out of her siblings that helps her mother and stepfather, who are elderly and need a lot of things done for them.  On top of that, her eating habits are much the same as mine: the majority of the time, she eats but one meal a day.  And yet she’s the biggest one in her house, as well.

I have a hard time believing that my best friend and I are the exception to the rule.

But you get these trolls – and most blogs have them (I think the only reason I don’t is because I moderate all my comments, and a troll will know that I’m just going to delete their ass) – who perpetuate the stereotype that we all sit around watching tv all day stuffing our faces.  Which is simply not true.  Of course you will have a small minority that do sit around stuffing their faces all day, but that doesn’t hold true for all of us.  And on the other side of the same coin, you have skinny people who sit around all day and stuff their faces (my husband, for example: he plays computer games all day long, while I take care of the house, the laundry, the children, etc.).  The only difference is the size of our bodies.

And they hold this “holier than thou” attitude, portraying us fatties as gluttonous, lazy pigs, while they are the ones always on the go, they “never” overeat, etc., etc.  But let’s get real here: everybody overeats occasionally.  EVERYBODY.  Underweight, normal weight, overweight, obese, morbidly obese – we ALL do it.  (The only people who would never overeat are anorexics – and they’ve got a whole different set of problems altogether.)

But to hear these trolls, you’d think us fat people are the only ones who do.  And that?  Is hypocrisy.

Hypocrisy: the practice of claiming to have higher standards or beliefs than is the case.
**taken from the Oxford Online Dictionary

I may be a lot of things, but if there’s one thing I’m not, it’s a hypocrite.