Channel 4: How to Look Good Naked

I hadn’t actually meant to do a running commentary on British television shows, but I’m noticing more and more shows that really speak to me as a Fat Woman and a Woman Seeking Self Acceptance that I just can’t help it.

So class, today’s topic is Channel 4‘s series How To Look Good Naked.  I have to admit, I missed about 2/3 of the first season, but as soon as I saw it for the first time, I was in awe.  Gok Wan – whom I have to admit I’m crushing on a little bit – is absolutely A-M-A-Z-I-N-G.  And he doesn’t just take thin women on the show – there have even been… *gasp*… women as big as ME on that show!  I have to admit that the majority of the women who go on the show are thin, but the fact that he actually does take the Fat Girls and teaches them confidence is really a radical move in today’s society.

And that’s what it’s all about.  Gok isn’t about simply sexualizing women – hell, he’s gay – he’s all about giving women their self-confidence back.  And THAT is what’s TRULY sexy.  He wants to give women the confidence to be naked – alone or with someone else – regardless of their size.

And as a Fat Woman who has only inched her way along the road to self-acceptance, watching the butterflies emerge from their cocoons is truly heartwarming.  I keep finding myself thinking “I wish I could go on that show” when I watch it.  The reality is, I would never do that in a million years.  Because even with the Fat Girls he’s put on the show, I can see so much more beauty in them than I could ever find in myself right now.  Even the mothers that have appeared on the show look better to me than I do.  They didn’t have 9-lb. babies.  They didn’t have pre-eclampsia that caused them to gain 70 lbs. of water weight.  They don’t have stomachs made of almost nothing but loose skin that hang past their vaginas.  Even if I do get to the point of accepting myself (and particularly those things), I’m not naive enough to think that the producers of this show would ever get over the shape of my body.

You’re not as big as you think you are
The media bombard us all with unrealistic airbrushed images of women every day. These images of the stick thin, surgically enhanced women aren’t very realistic but these images portray women as beautiful and successful so it’s hard for normal women not to want to be like them. However, most normal women do not look like them so these pictures enforce feelings of negativity and encourage low self esteem.

So, the second stage of looking good naked is to start waking up to the way the media works and stop comparing these images to the way you look. Wake up to the fact that you actually look pretty ok, that you aren’t as big as you think you are AND look at all the women around you – I bet most of them are the same as you.

It’s so refreshing to hear someone who actually works with these ‘plastic people’ (as I like to call them) say something like that.  He may be in ‘the business,’ but he’s obviously not so into it that he’s unaware of how unrealistic an image they portray.  And the fact that he wants to get that message across… that’s part of why I’m crushing on him right now.

You know what I would do if I won the lottery tonight?  I’d book Gok for a private consultation.  I bet he’d do wonders for my self-esteem.